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During the day, do you read a story and you feel it is worth sharing?  Where to place it? I don’t like to disrupt someone’s thread or thoughtful post and it is not worthy of posting a lengthy article, do you?  Let’s try to leave this up in speakers corner and we can share some news!

From the Afghan  Women’s Writing Project

Colorful Days after Black Nights”

I remember the Taliban were searching houses ten times a day with different groups to find a book, cassette, picture, TV, or video game. If they found any of these, they shot the whole family. After we returned home, my mom burned books that my older sister and brother had collected over many years. She burned most of the books in our mud-brick oven, then threw the rest away in sacks very far from the house so the Taliban would not know they were ours. My heart was broken and I was at a loss……

I wove carpets for four years and forgot everything about studying or getting an education. We were stuck at home, and never allowed to go outside. When the Taliban were removed from power in Afghanistan after almost five years, most of the schools eventually reopened. My siblings returned to school, but I did not, because I was so afraid of everyone, still thinking that Taliban were close.


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Was once a handsome frog until kissed by an ugly corporate princess.----- Like a well honed knife, the internet can be a wonderful and useful tool. It can be used to prepare and serve a delicious meal or it can be used to cause harm. peace

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  1. PatsyT says:

    The Crash the Tea Party Movement has had a crash
    I checked their page a few days ago and it was filled with porn and garbage.
    The trolls were very busy!
    Now this teacher has been put on leave and received death threats
    What ever happened to free speech?

    • KQ says:

      Cheers you see these articles all too often. The WashPo story I posted actually mentions that the president informed Ms. Langbehn about the policy change. I think the main problems occur in emergency situations which are obviously the most important times to be with your loved one.

      What Ms. Langbehn said almost chocked me up.

      “I kept saying it’s not a gay right to hold someone’s hand when they die, its a human right,” she said, noting that she and Pond had been partners for almost 18 years. “Now to have the president call up and say he agrees with me, it’s pretty amazing, and very humbling.”

  2. KQ says:

    I just saw Buzz Aldrin being interviewed by O’Donnell on KO. It’s great to see a childhood hero being so progressive at his age. He discussed how the previous Bush project to the moon was a waste of time because they tried to reinvent the rocket in this case instead of using shuttle booster technology which cost billions in overruns. He said we would actually get us to deep space later than President Obama’s plan. He was pretty feisty about taking on the president’s critics as just protecting the status quo to promote a failed project and protect their interests.

  3. KQ says:

    It’s incredible that President Obama had to write such an order but I’m sure it’s a relief to many.

    Obama extends hospital visitation rights to same-sex partners of gays

  4. Khirad says:

    Today, didn’t do the things I said I would. I’ll do what I didn’t get to coming back later before leaving for home.

    Today went to Georgetown and walked around. Canal is totally dried up like an Arizonan river. Got a chuckle out of it. The harbor and Teddy Roosevelt Island was pretty, and walked up and down the main streets. Ate at Five Guys, to have an Obama experience — ugh, I don’t do fast food like ever, and so I feel woozier than most might for an hour or two. Not the food to get stuff done on. But, I did it. It’s not the location, but, I had to get a taste of a local institution (seems like the Eastern In-n-Out to me).

    I did duck into a rare books store. Saw one of the most beautiful books of my life -- a beautifully bound collection of Yeats, but I’m not here to buy books. On the way out though, on sale in the street I spotted a Mircea Eliade and then a book on Zoroastrianism for a combined $5. Deal!

    Then saw the outside of the Watergate and did the Kennedy Center tour. Oh my goodness. Beyond gorgeous.

    Embassies spotted today: Spain, Mongolia, Ukraine, Thailand, and Egypt. Embassies I have as one of my quirky must dos.

    Tomorrow, Baltimore.

    • Chernynkaya says:

      Hey Khirad, I think it’s pretty good that you went off your schedule-- I sensed fatigue even in your writing today!

      About Eliade-- I have many of his works so you can imagine how upset I was to learn about him. (Naturally, being the bitch I am, if you haven’t heard, I am about to upset you too!)

      “Several times during the late 1930s, Eliade publicly expressed his support for the Iron Guard, a fascist and antisemitic political organization. His political involvement at the time, as well as his other far right connections, were the frequent topic of criticism after World War II.”

      That was from wiki, but I read about it a few years ago elsewhere.

      • Khirad says:

        No, Cher, I knew that, and it’s like a Jung deal with me. It’s sorta hard not to read him in the field as a giant, even with his past. I’ve heard several rationalizations, and he was no Evola, but yeah, it was a tough break when I found that out as well.

        It upset me too. It ranks up there with finding out later about one of my favorite writers for years on Iranian religion being active in the ’53 Coup.

        Forgot to mention I also had a Yeungling at Martins, where JFK proposed to Jackie and where Clinton spent a lot of time.

        And yes, you sensed fatigue right. 😉

        • Chernynkaya says:

          Funny, the Jung thing I knew before studying, so for some reason I was more immune to disappointment. But with Eliade, he was so seminal, and, let’s face it--it is religion! (Yeah, I know--think RR.)

          On the other hand, I once had a discussion in a seminar (not religion) and the instructor asked, “Well, would you rather have a nice guy writing mediocre music, or would you rather have Wagner?”

          • Khirad says:

            Thanks for that Cher, it is a conundrum. And you put it well with that Wagner quip (Nietzsche wrote one of the most scathing critiques in The Case of Wagner). Although, my favorite is,

            “Wagner’s music is better than it sounds.”

            Edgar Wilson Nye, quoted by Twain.

            It’s a philosophical question, how we can respect a work and loath associations; or a Lit question, of how much of their personal views made it into their scholarship. In any case, I do take it with a grain of salt. It’s always there in the back of your mind, and what’s most perniciously pervasive is me questioning their motives, when there may actually be nothing nefarious to that particular passage that raised an eyebrow.

  5. kesmarn says:

    Dear Friends,

    It’s hardly possible to be more O/T than this. And — disclaimer — this is personal, only remotely political. So, please forgive me. But, here goes…

    You might remember that my 24 year old son was invited to a grad school recruitment weekend at a prestigious university about three weeks ago. He had a great time there. All indications were that admission to the PhD program was a “gimme.”

    Until today.

    He was not one of the Chosen. He had applied to very few places. This one was his last/best hope. Now grad school is apparently not in his future for Fall 2010.

    He’s beyond bummed. He’s heartsick.

    Here was a kid with straight A’s in his undergrad years — not just in math but in Japanese and English Lit as well. He had good recommendations, good GREs, and a track record of a year and a half of success in teaching. What more could he have done?

    I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice. Any thoughts. How do you console a heartbroken young man? Where does he go from here?

    I realize things could be worse. He’s not defusing IEDs in Afghanistan. He hasn’t just received a horrible diagnosis. He’s not a meth addict. But he’s definitely hurting.

    Any and all words of wisdom would be appreciated.

    • PatsyT says:

      Oh and the cool thing about grad school is you can take a few years off
      before you go
      or at least that is what I have been told.
      Sometimes things happen for a reason.
      I have heard of some kids that are stellar not getting into anywhere!
      We have been hearing some real shocker stories.
      It’s so hard on the kids
      This year is a very very tough year!

    • PatsyT says:

      You and your son are not alone.
      I totally feel your pain.
      My daughter is going thru the applying for the first time!
      Ohhh the drama!
      I think I am going to use your logic here
      about not defusing IED’s or being a meth addict!
      I will be using that!
      We have three schools in play, one for sure
      and trying to see if we can get that school to put up more $$$
      It’s a fantastic school but the cost !!
      I hope we can get some good news soon
      We are even thinking
      Gap Year
      I wish I had a magic wand for both of our kids.

    • KQ says:

      Kes I hate to hear this but he’s obviously a very intelligent young man with a great future ahead. I had to work before I went to grad school and I’m not necessarily advocating he do the same thing but he may want to seek to matriculate at another school or even just take grad classes for now. I didn’t start matriculating until I went to a second grad school after taking about a years worth of Chem classes. It does help your case entering the grad school you want with more post grad credits and good grades on your CV. I probably would not have gotten in the grad school I chose if I did not prove myself first.

      • SueInCa says:

        That is very good advice. I never went to grad school but I would think taking extra classes, just as excelling in undergrad work would be a big help. Sometimes, too, it is based on legacy and if slots run out, no amount of prep will get you in but your advice is very good.

        I know how you and he are feeling right now. My daughter had a similar problem but she went back to teaching for another year and the next application she was accepted. It delayed her one year but she says she had a chance to grow a bit more as well.

        • kesmarn says:

          Sue, thanks for sharing your daughter’s experience. Every example of someone who persisted and won in the end is all to the good.

          I agree, too, that sometimes the failure to get in is related to factors beyond the student’s control. It may not be fair, but then so much of life is not.

      • kesmarn says:

        KQ, I must say this is encouraging. Just on pure instinct, I suggested that he do the same thing. (He had said to me: “If I do another round of applications, what am I going to do while I’m waiting?”) I mentioned that he might take a couple grad level classes (which he did do as an undergrad, too). Can’t hurt…might help those GREs to go even higher. (Easy for me to say.)

        Do you mind if I ask how old you were when you started grad school?

    • Khirad says:

      For a kid this gifted and with so much accomplishments, I’m sure it’s not the end of the world. There will be other opportunities.

      He’ll come around. That’s pat and it doesn’t help now, -- I know this is the crash and comedown of so much work and promises/signals broken.

      Give it time. If it spirals and triggers something deeper, then I’d worry. If he has guy friends, after some grieving time have them try to snap him out of it. Guys are good at that. Not particularly sensitive about feelings, but great at giving you a kick in your ass.

      • kesmarn says:

        Khirad, it’s good to get the younger and “guy” perspective.

        Ironically, he’s going to be in his buddy’s wedding in June. The down side is, this guy who’s getting married just got admission with a full tuition waiver and $24,000 stipend for a PhD program in Econ/Stats at Ohio State University. It’s tough, I’m sure, not to be massively envious!

        But the trip to Columbus and the wedding will be a distraction. I’m hoping they pair him up with a massively gorgeous — and friendly — bridesmaid and he has the weekend of his dreams! He needs something good to happen. Soon!

    • Chernynkaya says:

      Dear Kes, there is rarely anything more painful to a parent than when our kid is brokenhearted. We wish we could take on their pain ourselves to spare them and feel helpless, as I see you are now.

      I wish I had an answer. I wish I had an “in’ with an admissions department. There is probably nothing that you can say to console him, except to let him know you are there for him.

      Can’t he re-apply next year? Or doesn’t it work like that for PhD programs? In any case, he will still feel disconsolate about this year.

      I am so sorry, Kes!

      • kesmarn says:

        Cher, thanks for your kind empathy. It’s true. It would be so much easier to be going through a rough time myself than to be witnessing him going through it. (Have been through similar episodes with my daughter and we have both come out the other side of them, and I have to keep reminding myself of that.)

        Initially his reaction was that he just couldn’t bring himself to go through the whole GRE Exam/Admissions process/Letters of Recommendation ordeal again. It seemed just too energy-draining. I didn’t say anything in the way of objection to that because, who am I to decide how much energy he has and how deeply he wants this? But as the evening has worn on, he’s starting to re-consider. Even emailed one of his profs for advice.

        I know it’s not my place to decide his career for him. But one thing I do know: he’s capable of grad level work. I’ve had friends who’ve graduated from Ivy League schools — one from Yale, and one from Columbia. They have the same feeling. So I have to admit, the thought of a fine mind going to waste is disheartening to me.

        I sense that this is partly related to the current economy. Only 20% of recent college grads have found employment. Naturally a fair percentage of the rest are going to apply to grad school. And almost every state university is severely shorter on money this year than ever before in recent memory. So they don’t have the funding for graduate studies, which almost always require tuition assistance for the student. Since he’s (obviously) not a woman or a minority, his odds are even longer. Sigh.

        Thanks so much for letting me vent. And for your wise words.

    • escribacat says:

      Hey Kes, What a bummer! My nephew got jerked around by a university too (he took a semester off and ended up there anyway). One thing I’ve learned being a victim advocate is to just let the grieving grieve, let the crying cry, let the heartsick be heartsick. You can’t fix it so don’t try. (Easier said than done, I know). Just let him know you love him, you’re there if he needs your help and you’ll support whatever move he decides to make next (which he will when he’s ready).

      • kesmarn says:

        Thanks, e’cat. It’s hard to get out of “Mom Mode.” But you’re right. There are some things (many things as they move into adulthood) that we just can’t fix, no matter how much we’d like to.

        I just know that — even though he’s been very effective teaching high school math (one of his kids got a perfect 800 on the math SATs) — quite candidly, he hates it. The kids are just not motivated the way college students are, and there are so many disciplinary problems. I think the thought of doing this indefinitely is enough to make him frantic. He’s too young to be doing a math version of Mr. Holland’s Opus, if you know what I mean.

  6. Kalima says:

    Breaking news.

    “President Obama tells agency to establish rule barring hospitals from denying visitation to gay, lesbian partners.”


  7. LiseLives says:

    A quick Good Morning (still AM here) to this great Planet !
    Hope to see you guys over the weekend --

  8. AlphaBitch says:

    Even if I’ve been only a lurker, not a poster, of late (due only to time constraints) -- I’m THRILLED to hear from you Bito! I keep you in my thoughts and prayers and heart ALL the time, and I wish you a good recovery! Don’t worry about the hair. We’d all love to see you, no matter the coiffure! And trust me, mine isn’t all that grand….

  9. bitohistory says:

    An early message from UMC this morning letting everyone know that the day is beginning well and I wish all a good day.I need to find some one volunteer to cut my hair off to today( the chemo has caught up with it, and it just is coming out in clumps. I want to Thank every one your for their kind thoughts the last few days and i will try to attempt to keep many of my thought and progress, if any .I have a difficult writing much down in to a coherent sentence. Bear with me, please, But I should be a little each day. Again thanks to everyone for your kinndneess.
    peace to each day

    • PatsyT says:

      Hugs and Kisses to …
      Bito your job is to rest and get well.
      Now get back to work.

    • SueInCa says:

      Bito, so good to hear from you. No need to say much, a pop in to say just Hi is good enough. Keeping you in my thoughts.

    • boomer1949 says:

      Dear Bito,

      So good to hear from you! But as AdLib said, please don’t feel any of us is pressuring you to post anything right now. Everyone was concerned is all. Thank you for checking in; we’re glad you did! By the way, haven’t you heard bald is sexy? 😉 😉

      A bito classical just for you…

    • AdLib says:

      So good to hear from you, Bito! Please don’t feel obligated to expend your valuable energy posting anything right now. We’re here, glad to know you’re on the mend and looking forward to your posting again when you’re stronger.

      Rest and rejuvenate, my friend.

    • PepeLepew says:

      Oh, Bito, take care!

    • escribacat says:

      Bito!!! It’s great to hear from you. We’re all thinking of you.

    • nottoolate says:

      Bito, here’s Tibetan Lama Tendar chanting for whales. I love the happiness in it. Hope it makes you smile.

    • kesmarn says:

      b’ito! So good to hear from you! Believe it or not, you’re closer to getting well today than you were a week ago. Hang in there, my Pal!

    • Kalima says:

      Bito, it is such a relief to hear from you. Hoping that you will get stronger with each day. Sending you good thoughts and prayers. Get better soon and take care.

      I stole this like a hawk from a site I visited during your absence, forgive me.

      Magic Wand
      I wish I had a magic wand
      To make it go away;
      I’d wave my scepter over you
      Until you were okay.
      I’d think good thoughts; I’d send you love;
      I’d transmit healing vibes;
      My wand and I would surely beat
      Whatever the doc prescribes.
      But there is no magic scepter, so
      I cannot cast a spell;
      Just know you’re often in my thoughts,
      And I hope you’ll soon be well!
      By Joanna Fuchs


      • LiseLives says:

        That’s beautiful, Kalima -- I completely believe in the power of collective healing vibes -- I join you all in that, for Bit’o --

  10. Khirad says:

    Today, started out visiting my congresswoman’s office to pick up tickets to the Capitol. It was funny. Walked in the door, and who did I see? My precinct captain from the ’08 election I volunteered at as a regular. She gave me a once over, and then her eyes lit up blurted out my name and gave me a hug. It was a good sorta weird and the last thing I expected. Last I saw her she had a bottle of Jack on election night and was a bit drunk (not like I didn’t take my fill of wine in the Dem hotel room HQ, but I don’t get grumpy). Anyhoo, it was neat to see her again.

    The experience of the tour is a bit of a blur, and our tour guide, God love him, was underwhelming. He was young, and taking place of another congressional aide who had never done it -- and I couldn’t hear a word he said, until he did the whispering spot in Statuary Hall (by the way, I loved Mississippi’s 🙄 ). I’m sorta not liking the tours, as I want time to loiter about and not be whisked from one place to the next, but I also get to see things others don’t.

    Walked past Cantor’s offices to the House gallery (and spied some young Republican aides flirting -- ewww). The actual gallery experience (after -- literally -- the third layer of security), I got to see Elijah Cummings and David Wu (who represents part of Portland and the northwestern part of Oregon) who were sponsoring some resolution to honor Coast Guardsmen in Astoria and the greatness of the Columbia River. Being originally from around the area, I really lucked out knowing what he was talking about, and who he was. Otherwise, it was all that dry stuff for C-Span 4.

    When we went back to the office to pick up our things, it was busier, and after clicking a quick picture of her office door and name, walked down the hall passing three young ladies. Then I did a double take and looked back and realized one of them was my congresswoman entering her office! It’s weird how they don’t stick out like you think they would.

    Then, Botanical Gardens, where I was amazed by the size of the barrel cactus and prickly pear (Arizonans will know what I mean). Otherwise it was like being back home for the minute or two I was walking through the section. Really, though, it is very beautiful.

    After that, National Galley of art. Lord. Renoir, Degas, Cezanne, Gauguin, Monet, Picasso, Lautrec, Van Gogh, and so much more -- but crap, after doing a good chunk, was tired, and moved on. Now I just realized I missed the Da Vinci -- and the things I missed to make up are stacking up. *banging head against wall*

    Then Smithsonian Natural History where I saw the Hope Diamond and stuff. But, even better, Indus Civilization artifacts I knew from history books, plus an Elamite cuneiform piece, that had me giddy.

    Ended the day with a mint julep at the Willard. I do hope I’m trimming up a little (if you saw me this might make you furious), I had been out of my years long walking habit for months before. And now my muscles feel like I’ve been jogging the next morning.

    • Chernynkaya says:

      Oh, God, the National Gallery! Isn’t it just amazing? Last time I was in DC I went there three times, and still missed stuff, even though it’s not that big. But big enough to wear me out.

      And I spent one full day at the Smithsonian, but --ashamed if this is girly--didn’t enjoy the Air and Space, so pretty much went in and out and back to Asian art.

      Khirad, are you going to the new-ish National Museum of the American Indian? I wonder what that’s like, and I heard the building itself is worth seeing.

      Also, are you on a tour for the whole trip, or do you just sign up for tours at certain places?

      I remember my first trip to DC and my actual relief that it was so beautiful and special. I was afraid it would be like any other city, but it’s not.

      • Khirad says:

        I know Cher, the National Art Gallery really isn’t that massive (well, what’s on display, that is), but I was all arted out after doing a good portion. I ducked in and out of a few and moved on due to time.

        Spent more time at the Air and Space than I thought I would. Wasn’t my fave, but I’m glad I did it. It’s clearly more popular, and as I mentioned before, the Freer is still my favorite (and very quiet, sans school groups -- very interesting Chinese section, though it wasn’t until the Indian part that I realized the quality of stuff it had, being more familiar with the latter’s history and art).

        It was more obligatory to do the Air and Space, to see the Wright Bros and Earhart planes. As to WWII planes and onward; and ICBMs, the Tucson area has equal museums. I still love the air service uniforms from different countries in a WWII section. A French family was there, and this little boy about 5-6 stood before the Luftwaffe uniform and said “gar

        • nottoolate says:

          Khirad, I lived in DC, Maryland and Virginia for over 40 years. Your posts are bringing back all sorts of memories. You seem to have the high points covered, but if you need any shopping advice, I’m your woman!

        • escribacat says:

          Another interesting update. So are you going to the White House? Do you mean that unless you arrange with your congressperson you can’t get on these tours? I don’t get it. (I’ve never been to DC).

          • Khirad says:

            Going through your congressperson beforehand cuts down on lines and it’s a way of scheduling ahead. Plus, I got to go through the underground tunnel from the the Longworth to the Capitol.

            Otherwise, I suppose you can do other arrangements, but if you want to try to get in the White House, might as well schedule these things as well.

            You need to go through one of your reprasentatives’ offices to get to the White House, and, good luck on the Pentagon alone or not in a larger group.

      • kesmarn says:

        Cher — talk about girly — when I was there I got stuck on an exhibit of all the first ladies’ gowns. And then there was the Hope diamond…

        Wow, that was a long time ago. Time to go back.

  11. javaz says:

    A message from b’ito --

    I have been having a couple of pretty bad days an I neglected to write you. While I am down to just one tube,a feeding tube,and I can eat light liquids, I fell pretty shitty and spaced out.. Please spread the word at the Planet for me.

  12. Questinia says:

    I belong to a Facebook group called “Scrap the Bill”. It’s a group wanting to nix Obama’s health care plan. I go on the page to periodically rant. I joined because my Republican lawyer neighbor joined (I spy on his FB wall page)

    Here is an excerpt of two comments:

    Shane Mathre comments:

    If you check Obama’s last trip overseas, his wife left just after their visit to France as stated below. She has yet to accompany him to any Arab country. Think about it. This was sent to me from a very good and reliable friend. The pieces of the puzzle just keep on coming together!

    I was at a Blockbusters renting videos, and as I was going along the wall, there was a video called “Obama”. There were two men next to me. We talked about Obama. These guys were Arabs and I asked them why they thought Michele Obama headed home following her visit in France instead of traveling on to Saudi Arabia and Turkey with her husband. They told me she couldn’t go to Saudi Ar abia, Turkey or Iraq. I said “Laura Bush went to Saudi Arabia , Turkey and Dubai .” They said that Obama is a Muslim, and by Muslim law he would not be allowed to bring his wife into countries that accept Sharia Law. I just
    thought it was interesting that two Arabs at Blockbusters accept the idea that we’re being led by a Muslim who follows the Islamic creed.
    They also said that’s the reason he bowed to the King of Saudi Arabia. It was a signal to the Muslim world..

    Just thought you would like to know.


    Peter Alexander Rott comments:

    Shane, thank you…I think you perfectly represent the intellectual acuity and rationality of the Right…

    • AdLib says:

      Dat’s funny cause I was at da Boiger King and dere was dese two Krischins in front of me ordering a Palin Boiger (a topless Wopper). I said, “Ain’t it strange that Palin says she’s a Krischin but she ain’t never been ta Jerusalem?”

      That’s when dese guys explained to me that she must be Muslimb, that’s why, cause Muslimbs can’t go to Jerusalem or they turn into salt or garlick or somethin’. Or maybe she’s Sagittarian or somethin. But they said she sure ain’t Krischin for that reason! See? Even Krischins know she’s not Krischin. And dese guys fix cars so they knows how tings woik!

      Beleave it!

      • boomer1949 says:

        😆 😆 😆 Oy Vey!! Use it all the time -- must mean I’m fluent in Hebrew too! Thus leading one to believe I’m Jewish. Right? Right!

        By golly I love, love love, deductive reasoning. Makes things much more crystal clearer. 🙄

      • Questinia says:

        Wha’ youze talkin’bou?

        Dose Hairy Krischins singing “Hairy Harry, Harry Krischins”?

      • Kalima says:

        😆 😆 😆 Still giggling, head hurts. My doctor will be sending the Bill, he’s a nice guy, Bill I mean.

    • Kalima says:

      I think that both of these guys need to remove the tinfoil hats and make a quick trip to detox for a few months. These people are seriously off their rockers or off their meds.

      So Q, what do I call you now, Mata, Hari or Nomiyaki??

      • Questinia says:

        Hi K-doll. I think they are tragically hilarious. You know VERY WELL what to call me! 😉

        “Nomiyaki, OG Agent, at your service”.

        • Kalima says:

          😆 May I ask what or who is keeping you awake OG Nomiyaki?

          • Questinia says:

            An OG NEVER discloses!

            • Kalima says:

              Right you are Nomi! OG K |_

            • Kalima says:

              Your swish is my command!

              There is a really cool pavement in France on the second link from the bottom of my MB greeting. I want one in front of my house, maybe even in the darker corners of our house, the furry ones would love it.

            • Questinia says:

              I sorta like…..Nomi.

            • Kalima says:

              LOL, I’d rather be called a “nomi” than a “yaki.”

              I see you have your Romanji/English dictionary handy.

              Ok let’s change that to oko or last month’s favourite, natto?

            • Questinia says:

              We’ve gone from okonomiyaki to nomiyaki to nomi.

              Please, I prefer “yaki”.

              No! You were right, call me Nomi.

              Wait a second! Who are you calling a flea!?

  13. Kalima says:


    “About 300 dead, 8,000 injured in China quake, Xinhua news agency reports.”


  14. AdLib says:

    As javaz was mentioning the racism in AZ, comes this unfortunate development:

    Arizona passes strict illegal immigration act

    The bill directs police to determine the immigration status of noncriminals if there is a ‘reasonable suspicion’ they are undocumented. Immigrant rights groups say it amounts to a police state.


    • javaz says:

      Oh God, AdLib, thank you for noticing -- Arizona is going back to the 1950’s and our GOP Governor and Legislature cuts taxes for corporations, while asking us to approve a sales tax that they cannot promise will go to the schools.

      We now have new legislation whereby anyone can carry concealed, and guns are no longer prohibited in bars or in restaurants that serve alcohol.

      There are no longer background checks to buy guns.

      Sheriff Joe is going to announce on May 1st whether or not he’s running for governor and the Maricopa County AG has resigned so that he can run for AG of the state.

      We’re the Alabama of the 50’s.

      Oklahoma is even worse according to Blues Tiger, and then there’s the new legislation about abortion in Nevada --

      And you wonder why I am so depressed?


      • AdLib says:

        Hmm…sounds like just a matter of time until there’s a Berlin-style wall constructed around AZ to keep white workers from fleeing to other more civilized states.

        And Sheriff Joe may need to take over the state and declare martial law until they root out all illegals.

        Poor AZ, can it ever climb out of this hole?

  15. Khirad says:

    Forgive me for a double-post:


    By the way, there is the problem of this infiltration tactic, that they can pass anything off as such in the future… just some unintended blowback to consider, though I thought it was an interesting idea, and I tend to trust Oregonians’ sense (off the road).

  16. javaz says:

    I think that I’ve finally come to grips with our last Sunday visit with our neighbors in which they expressed their fear of Obama taking their guns and hating Obama with a passion.

    Being face to face with FOX Republicans and listening to them spouting the rhetoric and seeing their hate-filled angry expressions really made an impact and upset me.

    I do admit that my opinion of them has dropped considerably, and these people have been very good friends for over 12 years.

    It all makes me so sad but my husband advises that I let it go and we go back to our golden rule of never discussing politics and he also told me that besides politics that they are still very good people, and they are -- you would not believe what they’ve done for us over the years, especially when we were in France and our daughter was killed.

    I grew up in Detroit, and I know prejudice, and have feared for the longest time that I might even harbor racist feelings, but after last Sunday, I now know that I am not a racist bigot.

    I think it’s been so long since I’ve heard that kind of talk and it shocked me and saddened me and hurt me and made me think less of them.

    And for me to think less of anyone really bothers me, especially since these people have been our friends and good friends for so long.

    While we were over there, the husband showed us his latest gun and whoa, that is some gun.

    He frequently shows us all his weapons, and he is armed to the teeth, but he’s a hunter and competes in marksmanship competitions, so we never really felt threatened before but accepted that all those guns and all the fancy knives were his hobby.

    His wife is a vegan, as is their young daughter, and they both hate all the hunter-stuff and guns -- but it rocked me to my core when the wife grew so angry in stating her belief about Obama being a Marxist, Muslim and he’s going take away their guns.

    There really was no reasoning with them and I hated how they talked down to me when I said that there is no way, no how that anyone is going to take guns away from Americans.

    Well, it’s happened before in other countries, dontcha know?

    Like I am an idiot and do not know the history of the Nazis?

    When they went on the rant about corporations and how the liberals, democrats and Obama demonize corporations and the wealthy, when the corporations deserve all the tax breaks and the rich shouldn’t have to pay higher taxes, I was flummoxed.

    My husband tried to explain outsourcing, and the wife said something about that being a lie about outsourcing to Mexico because everyone knows Mexicans are dumb!

    And then when it came to the mortgage crisis -- well, that was my wake up call.

    She said that the banks lent money to everyone -- the blacks and Mexicans -- and they should never own homes!

    “They’re all on welfare and taking advantage of the system because they are lazy and do not want to work but want everything for free.”

    I grabbed my things, and I know my face was red from anger, and said that we were leaving.

    I cannot tell you how upset that entire thing was for me and my husband is an easy-going guy, and he even he was bothered, but cautions me about over-reacting and telling me that they are still our friends but we must never discuss such things again.

    As we were walking from their yard, I heard the wife say that we are liberals so what do you expect.

    Then they send an email asking us to dog/cat/fish sit for them, and of course we will do that -- but sheesh -- I’ve been depressed enough already and this just does not help.

    GRRRR -- not sure anyone will read this, but it sure as hell felt damn good to vent.

    • boomer1949 says:

      I replied to your first post regarding your Sunday visit, so won’t bore you by repeating it.

      You know you have friends here and we’ll “listen” to whatever, whenever, & however. Venting is healthy and helps keep one’s head on straight. 🙂

    • nottoolate says:

      My dear friend, of course we will read it because we value you and what you have to say. What a horrid experience! It’s good you left and made your feelings clear to them without blowing up. I could not have behaved as well, so you see, you have inspired me by your example.

    • Khirad says:

      Oh, I read it. This is why the friends I have had -- one really close -- I don’t even broach politics, and get uncomfortable choosing a topic that even veer that way. I’m not a confrontational person, but I can get emotional about politics, so it’s best not to raise the temperature with strangers and especially friends. Unless, of course, they raise it -- then, I will not let such things go. You were right. Maybe you’ve deftly left out a few things, but all-in-all you reacted quite civilly. And oh my lord, some very confused vegans! I think they have Stockholm Syndrome.

      Also, it is interesting the latent and outright racism that FOX plays to in code language.

    • escribacat says:

      I have endured similar conversations with my own brothers. I’ve got three very conservative older brothers. One of them, who is about as dysfunctional as you can get and still be walking around, was actually born in Mexico. He is an incredible racist, especially against Mexicans. One time he very bitterly remarked, “What, do they think they can just come up here and we’re going to hand our country over to them?” I didn’t have the heart to tell him that the very land where we were sitting was once part of Mexico until we invaded and took it from them.

      Since a very bitter fight with one of my brothers over politics, I just don’t go there with them any more. I can’t stand it.

    • SueInCa says:

      Wow Javaz, you are a better person than I, I would have lost it and considering my husband is 2nd generation hispanic, he would probably have lost it as well and we are very easygoing people. Especially since he retired on a pension working 30 long years with PG&E. Yikes, I cannot imagine being in your shoes, but I truly feel for your situation. Of course my husband is the 1/2 of 1% of hispanics that worked all his life…….what ignorance. I know tons of hispanics and they work hard.

    • kesmarn says:

      j’avaz…wow…I really don’t know what to say. What can you do when things that are absolute, bedrock core-values that you hold deeply are — well, more than challenged — basically spit upon? You did the moral thing by leaving their house. To be honest, I don’t know if I would have had the courage to do that.

      Even though these people don’t seem terribly likely to change their minds, I think just letting them know that not everyone thinks the way they do is a valuable action in itself.

      I think these Tea Party Fox News types are also getting much more belligerent about the way they present their views. Why? Because they’re more scared than ever. Their “comfortable” white supremacist, gun-loving, probably homophobic, I’ve-got-mine-you-go-get-your-own attitudes (held for a lifetime) are being put under a microscope and coming up looking as ugly as they really are.

      So they take it out on you. If they’re really such patriotic Americans, why do they believe in free speech only for themselves? They certainly didn’t extend that right to you. In their book you and your husband apparently have about as many rights as one of Sheriff Joe’s illegals.

      You’re a good person. Don’t let them make you feel diminished.

    • Chernynkaya says:

      I read it Javaz and was moved by your struggle. I really do feel how this troubles you-- very touching.

      • javaz says:

        Cher, I am so glad that you replied.

        I’ve read your posts in which you’ve said that the minute you find out a person is a Republican that they are no longer a part of your world.

        I understand that, I really do, but it’s not an easy thing for us since there’s only one other neighbor that are Democrats, but they don’t follow politics at all, and you would not believe how happy they are!

        Yet when we mention our political beliefs compared to our other neighbors, they are ‘Hell yeah! F’em!’


        Thank Goddess that we have at least one pair of Democrats as neighbors -- they were Hillary supporters but voted for Obama -- plus the husband is a first generation Mexican American and his wife is part Native American -- and they are awesome people.

        I just love how they don’t follow any politics and don’t get the blogging thing and they are so incredibly happy, even though they’ve had problems when it comes to other things in the neighborhood.

        It is a struggle for me and that’s why I am on a break from blogging and reading the news.

        I read headlines and some columns but have been making a concerted effort not to read any comments.

        I think all the negativity from both sides is bad for a person or it’s bad for me.

        I’ve been blogging since we got a PC and went online and got really into it in 2000 and for those 8 years of Bush, and now this with Obama, and I am just so burned out.

        We all know the problems, and it so horribly depresses me that there is no solution.

        I want to be like my Democrat neighbors that say ” Hell yeah, we’re Democrats” and then that’s that.

        That’s what I used to be like when younger and I so want to go back to that frame of mind!

        • Chernynkaya says:

          Yeah, I hear you javaz, but I think once the genie is out of the bottle and you understand what’s going on in the world, it can not be pushed back inside. So the next best thing is to try to find ways to prevent demoralization and depression about it all.

          It’s funny, I take way too little interest in my local politics, and even though it’s not Sheriff Joe bad, it is very corrupt. (I’m talking LA, not Cali.) I think I stay uninformed because I am afraid how angry I’d get. I can get infuriated about TeaBaggers but it’s not in my backyard, so to speak, so I don’t get as crazy as I might. (I am not at all proud of myself about that though!)I mention this because I was really impressed by how on top of the Sheriff and Arizona stuff you are. That has to take its toll.

          And I really believe, based on everything I’ve studied, that the best anecdote to that burn-out depression is getting active in doing something about it, even if it’s writing letters. (Actually, I think writing letters is very effective.) And seriously, I know it seems to take a long time, but I still think we will get GROW off the ground!

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