Displaying 331 To 360 Of 2,133 Comments Kesmarn…thank you for posting this! As soon as I heard, my thoughts flashed to Kalima! Thank goodness they are all ok and so are their families. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 11, 2011 @ 8:23 am Love, Marriage and Sex – Separate But Equal? Although…in some weird way, they may have a point…behind every great man is a great woman. Sadly, too many get caught up in the physical attributes and forget the REAL reason why we have power over them. 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 4:28 pm OH Cher…SO right! » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 4:19 pm Nicely said KQ! » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 4:15 pm AH…Congratulations KQUARK that you have it in the making! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 4:15 pm Actually Choicelady, your father and mother’s story is beautiful too. The fact that HE loved her despite her faults is so beautiful and truly speaks to the power of love. Reading your story brought tears to my eyes. I know I was VERY lucky to have lived with parents that I had…although according to my MUCH older siblings…(I was a menopause baby…and the age differences are great, WHICH personally I think was a good thing…I was an ‘only child’ with ‘brothers and sisters’…I had the best of BOTH worlds 🙂 )but THEY SAY we had completely different parents and THEY never met the people I knew. 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 4:14 pm LOL Boomer. YOU are so good! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:58 pm PASS THAT BOX! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:57 pm OH adlib…After reading all the comments and your post…I’m still crying! I’m such a damn romantic. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:56 pm Congrats ADLIB to you and your bride. 🙂 May the two of you have a wonderful life together. Happy Anniversary, however many years. 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:54 pm OH…KQaurk…I bawled like a baby writing it. It really was a wonderful love story, and I was fortunate to have lived through it…THEY really spoiled me. 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:53 pm AH Cher, you are amazing. My ex husband and I are still close, so I think I understand what you mean….I still ‘love him” in a weird way and was SO happy when he remarried and found a woman to put up with him! 🙂 As a matter of fact, I’m proud to say,I helped him find his current wife. He was miserable after our divorce, so I played match maker. He and I were just too young and had too much baggage upon entering the marriage. WE simply gravitated toward one another because we were there and we never should have married. HOWEVER, we were blessed with two amazing kids and they are the light of both our lives. SO when we divorced our desire to not hurt our children was at the root of our decision to continue being friends. As a matter of fact, HE moved to an apartment on the corner of our street after we divorced, so the kids could easily see both of us whenever they needed or wanted. As to laughter, oh my gosh…you are SO right. I am with my man, mu fiance, today, because we laugh. WE enjoy one another, most of the time. Laughter and enjoying each others company is SO important, even more important, I think, than sex. Sex is great…don’t get me wrong…but it’s not what a REAL relationship and partnership are based upon. And again you are a fountain of wisdom with your final statement. NOW comes the kleenex! » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:51 pm I still believe in marriage. Even though I’ve been divorced for going on 10 years and now with a man who has been divorced 6 years. I love the idea of two people WORKING together for their mutual benefit and the benefit of their progeny. I love the concept of two people who compliment one another, helping one another through this thing called life. I appreciate the work it takes from both parties to be successful and how both contribute to the success of their family. 21 years ago I had the privilege of watching two people, who had spent 40 years together as a married couple, say good-bye for the last time. She, had been very sick with cancer for quite a few years and HE, along with their children, had taken care of her; emotionally, financially and physically. For forty years; they loved, they fought, had their differences and ‘she’ (often in anger) said she “was going to divorce that man”. He scoffed and made unsavory comments. They bickered, they laughed, they danced, they cried, they fretted over bills and the antics of their five children. They didn’t always see ‘eye to eye’. They took ‘naps’ in the afternoon. :). She sometimes slept on the couch. They punished children, started a few businesses and saw them collapse, took care of relatives, hosted weddings, took care of kids, grandkids and elderly parents, they were there for loved ones, made sacrifices, went bankrupt and dealt with cancer and STAYED together. They loved each other and were partners in life. The day SHE died, he held her in his arms, and stroked her; placing little butterfly kisses on her forehead as she took her last breaths, all the while, he telling her “it’s ok…its time for you to go, I love you”. It was the most beautiful, poignant moment I have ever had the experience to witness. It was almost voyeuristic, as it was such an intimate moment, between two lovers, two life partners…their youngest daughter, who only 21 at the time, felt uncomfortable watching, as that moment should have been only theirs, so she left the room. HE cried when she left him. I had NEVER seen HIM cry. HE, a big man, a truck driving teamster and veteran of World War II, cried like a baby when she left him forever. The funeral, his last gift to her, was top of the line. All her favorite flowers, gardenias, filled the funeral parlor with their strong aroma. The dress she wore(of which strangely SHE foretold) he had his daughters SEARCH all over town for and was bought from HER favorite dress shop, suited her to a tee, it was the perfect color for her…a soft pink. He made sure the wig, raven haired, which was purchased (As she had no hair left) to showcase the woman he married and which he still saw; even in her last days, was laid perfectly on her head (I, even, didn’t at first realize it was a wig). The tombstone he ordered was shaped like a BIG tear drop…and as his real final gift for the lady he loved (who was ridiculously vain, and NEVER, EVER told anyone her REAL age) only showed her day of death and not her day of birth, so that no one would ever know her real age. (BTW….I just learned her REAL age when my father died in 2003, WHEN I finally got to see her birth certificate…he always kept her secrets). » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:40 pm Hmm…Good catch! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 3:08 pm Choicelady…I can’t wait to those farmers in Wisconsin! Seriously! But as we were talking about in my NIMBY article, the divisive tactics used by many with an agenda is a TACTIC and we have to remember to keep that in mind at all times! That tactic is successful because it plays on people’s emotions and fears of what they don’t understand. So I suggest if you are afraid of something or don’t understand something confront it head on! Most of the time, one finds what they believed to be scary isn’t scary at all…but rather just the opposite and it provides much opportunity to enrich your soul and your heart. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 2:38 pm This article brings up a good point. http://www.addictinginfo.org/?p=2550 Envy as at the root of the problem with many in the tea party who are opposed to union or public workers. They feel IF they are not getting something, no one should. They don’t seem to understand a race to the bottom serves no one well, but the economic elite. They shouldn’t be bitching that union or public workers get more than they…and thus shouldn’t get it…NO they should be bitching that THEY TOO should have access to the rewards of their labor. A quote I use often because it is SO true and goes to the HEART of what our system is supposed to provide : From Adam Smith…An Inquiry into the Nature and Causes of the Wealth of Nations, Book 1, Chapter 8: Of the Wages of Labour, pg. 32: Is this improvement in the circumstances of the lower ranks of the people to be regarded as an advantage or as an inconveniency to the society? The answer seems at first sight abundantly plain. Servants, labourers, and workmen of different kinds, make up the far greater part of every great political society. But what improves the circumstances of the greater part can never be regarded as an inconveniency to the whole. No society can surely be flourishing and happy, of which the far greater part of the members are poor and miserable. It is but equity, besides, that they who feed, clothe, and lodge the whole body of the people, should have such a share of the produce of their own labour as to be themselves tolerably well fed, clothed, and lodged. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 1:47 pm This was rather inspiring…. http://www.thenation.com/blog/159098/what-michael-moore-gets-about-wisconsin-and-america » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 1:42 pm @Cher….MAJOR co-sign on all points, including the French! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 8:09 am Thanks for that link Cher! I so appreciated it! » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 11:16 am @Cher…yep that ALL pretty much sums it up…WE do need a word that encompasses ALL that! It would make life SO much easier. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 10:52 am No doubt~! I actually wish I could see it in person! » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 10:42 am I liked it! 🙂 » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 10:28 am Oh Cher…another great summary!! Ok… The GOP…as usual LIE and are the most vile creatures. Their proposed budget cuts would cause MORE economic problems…not alleviate anything. WHY do these charlatans with a less than positive agenda get to have any say on economic matters? They don’t seem to understand basic economic tenets..yet they get to make such draconian ideas take root in our economically illiterate society. UGH…it’s so annoying. WHY don’t people listen to the likes of Krugman and other well respected Economist is beyond me! Financial Crisis inquiry…ok that was a ‘no duh’…why did we really need a commission to state the obvious? AND my next question…so what is anyone in power going to do about it? The Gitmo thing is something I’m concerned about…and not sure why the administration is taking this course of action. On the one hand, the political climate is such we can’t seem to make any REAL progress at getting rid of Gitmo, so in that vain, I can kind of understand…but its still unsavory on another hand. As to the SCOTUS and that damn ruling about free speech…I’m a huge supporter of the sort of quote by Voltaire ‘I disagree with what you say, but will defend to the death your right to say it”…HOWEVER, free speech does come with responsibility too. AND just because you legally CAN do something doesn’t mean it YOU should do it. Do those idiots who are picketing soldiers funerals have no shame or concept of decency? WHAT is wrong with those people? » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 10:28 am @Choicelady, the younger generation does seem more astute and less susceptible to the ideas towards diversity that older generations often held. I notice it with my children and my SO’s children. They are so much more open to others, and as you said, they know more people from different backgrounds, as such they have a different perspective, which I think is a great thing. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 8:08 am @jkk…I think we might be talking about two different concepts. My complaint with the sex offender registries are two fold; 2. I also think that the justice system is VERY flawed in how these cases are tried. Too often it’s a he said, she said and pleas are made OUT of court with the DA that may or may not be accurate or justified based on the evidence. THAT is a problem. As a woman, I know many unscrupulous women who sadly DO use the criminal justice system for less than honorable intentions. Is that always the case? NO, hell no. But most of the time REAL rape and sexual offenses are NOT reported and the stats actually do BEAR that out. Also, most sexual offenses the victim knows their attacker, which is part of the reason that many go unreported. MY problem with this law and the registries is it does NOTHING to protect anyone and may be more of a ‘smoke screen’ and may cause more damage in the LONG run to both potential victims and those who were unjustly accused. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 7:48 am I grew up in a small town and I agree most everyone knows everyone else. But there was a dark side to it as well. As a teen, there was nothing to do but party. Ergo, why kids tend to have the problems with drugs and drinking. THEIR bored and have no outlet for their boredom. In addition, they are removed from so much and sheltered from so much they grow up with unrealistic ideas and expectations about life and people. I often equate my teen years to much of the concepts in the movie “Footloose”. Which came out while I was in High School. We too, were not allowed dances (except the prom at a banquet facility with tons of chaperones) until my Senior year in high school OR bon fires at Homecoming, as well many other normal high school activities. Our friggin High School was literally in the middle of no where, yet we were locked in with rent a cops. It was ridiculous. The school had a student body of close to 2000 students YET all the bath rooms were locked except for the girls and boys restrooms next to the principal’s office (4 stalls each), Imagine the lines at lunch time! AND there was a bathroom monitor whose job it was to sit in the bathroom and ensure students weren’t smoking. Mind you this was the 80’s and the school was in the middle of no where and was not at the time known for having any gang related problems or anything of that nature. The overkill was ridiculous, all in the name of keeping us kids ‘safe’. AND everything was about sports…if you didn’t play sports you didn’t count. It was a weird way to grow up! I agree the lines weren’t as divided, but I think that was because the town was pretty cookie cutter, in that all the people where pretty much of the same socio-economic background and there wasn’t much in the way of REAL income divergence or even ethnic backgrounds. Since everyone was pretty similar in economic status, religious beliefs (Catholic or Protestant) and ethnic background (mostly white and of European descent) there was a conformity that erased boundaries more or less. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 7:40 am Choicelady…thank you for your contribution on this subject! I live in Eggerstville/Snyder…right on the city border near University Heights. I love it here because it is SO diverse, part of that is due to UB. Which I am very grateful to have as a neighbor. But when I moved here 12 years ago, I kept hearing from people I know in Orchard Park, Clarence, Lancaster, etal. That my new neighborhood was ‘going down’. YOU know what they meant by that! We have a lovely neighborhood, with street lights, sidewalks, children who actually PLAY in the neighborhood, ride their bikes and get this one…WALK! It was a great place to raise my children. My kids are in their 20’s now, as are their friends, who literally come from ALL walks of life. It’s fabulous. When I graduated from High School, (I grew up in Lancaster) I moved to the Elmwood area myself, as I went to Buff State after high school. I LOVED it there. I also lived in Allentown for awhile and North Buffalo, near Hertel. I loved the people in all those areas. I then moved to East Amherst….gawd I hated it! I only lasted about a year! I, too, never understood the desire to live where everyone and everything is the same. I couldn’t stand the town I grew up in…I felt trapped and like a fish out of water. I hightailed it, literally the week after HS graduation and never went back. I agree that this is an ugly situation and quite honestly I really have no clue what can be done about it….other than trying to educate, bring attention to issues such as this and appeal to others to look within themselves to be open to others who are not the same as they…and see them as people FIRST. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 7:29 am Not in these parts. Truly. I don’t know how prevalent that is in other areas. Do you have any links to areas where that has been accomplished? Thanks. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 9, 2011 @ 7:18 am Thanks> Here is another interesting study…this one WAS done in Florida and is specific to Florida…as it appears Florida has the most stringent sexual predator law in the nation and the registry is larger than most other states http://www.ccoso.org/library%20articles/PublicPerceptions%20ASAP%207.pdf » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 5:41 pm Thanks jkk…but that just gives me google sites and offers no analysis. In the links I provided the stats are laid out clearly along with analysis. And the issue isn’t as cut and dry and the google query makes it appear. » Posted By Abbyrose86 On March 8, 2011 @ 5:35 pmComments Posted By Abbyrose86
I’m starting to REALLY look forward to your daily column, my only regret is that I’m on the east coast and don’t get it until later in the day! 🙂
Wall Street…they are at the heart of this problem we ALL have today…so why shouldn’t they pay? It makes no sense that they are getting off Scot free in all this…I for one am sick of it…and would love to know, what more WE the people can do about it!
1. I think in many areas (and one of the links I provided, suggests the same) the criteria used to place people on the list is much less rigid than in others. For example, in some states the criteria for being placed on the lists, is the person had to have been convicted numerous times and for certain offenses, where in other areas, such as Florida, any sexual offense, even if committed only once, places someone convicted of that crime on that list. So in the examples I gave of a 19 year old boy, convicted of statutory rape with his CONSENTING 15 year old girlfriend IS listed as a sex offender.
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